I feel like any advice I try to give is poor, given that I'm painfully single and only seem to end up really caring about unavailable men.
But as a female, here are my thoughts: 1. Subtlety is overrated. If a guy wants me, I'd prefer him to be very direct instead of trying to send "signals" or something. On the few times I've rejected someone's advances, I did not feel like that negatively affected our friendship or my opinion of him, but that's just me. Because I can't blame a guy for trying. 2. Also, and I hear this a lot from women like me-- who know what we want and have strong personalities-- sometimes it's nice when the guy makes the first move. I've done a lot of "chasing" and I think maybe it'd be nice to be "chased" for once. If you're worried that the girl isn't interested, maybe she is just waiting for you to make the first move. but, it depends, and this approach isn't going to be 100% all the time. 3. This is just a suggestion and not meant to be snarky... You could try moving away from your physical "type" and see what happens. Obviously you can't force sexual attraction but I've been surprised sometimes by what develops with someone that I would have assumed I wouldn't be attracted to. If anything it has helped change the "type" I'm attracted to completely! (I used to only like skinny guys who were not much taller than me, now I like big guys [not obese, but a little padding is fine] and the last few men I've slept with have been over 6'2". lol!)
Uh... I've been drinking tonight so this may not be helpful or even make any sense. XD
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But as a female, here are my thoughts:
1. Subtlety is overrated. If a guy wants me, I'd prefer him to be very direct instead of trying to send "signals" or something. On the few times I've rejected someone's advances, I did not feel like that negatively affected our friendship or my opinion of him, but that's just me. Because I can't blame a guy for trying.
2. Also, and I hear this a lot from women like me-- who know what we want and have strong personalities-- sometimes it's nice when the guy makes the first move. I've done a lot of "chasing" and I think maybe it'd be nice to be "chased" for once. If you're worried that the girl isn't interested, maybe she is just waiting for you to make the first move. but, it depends, and this approach isn't going to be 100% all the time.
3. This is just a suggestion and not meant to be snarky... You could try moving away from your physical "type" and see what happens. Obviously you can't force sexual attraction but I've been surprised sometimes by what develops with someone that I would have assumed I wouldn't be attracted to. If anything it has helped change the "type" I'm attracted to completely! (I used to only like skinny guys who were not much taller than me, now I like big guys [not obese, but a little padding is fine] and the last few men I've slept with have been over 6'2". lol!)
Uh... I've been drinking tonight so this may not be helpful or even make any sense. XD