Yeah, well, that's the thing, I don't find it unacceptable in general, just unacceptable for me. As long as the exchange is mutually beneficial and everybody is happy, I don't see a reason for anyone to blink twice. Mutually beneficial can be anything from "contribute money towards the pot" to "provide interesting companionship" to "does housework" to "really good fuckbuddy" or any of a billion other things where everybody is happy. Your sexual desires are a totally reasonable way to choose the lucky two friends, as long as they're down, don't you think? I would be uncomfortable with the situation, on the other hand, if they would not have chosen to sleep with you to begin with, but are doing it to survive. Specifically survive, because was you get down to the bottom level of Maslow's Heirarchy, people get a bit funny (and hey, sex is on that level, too, so it's a bit complicated). Really, though, as soon as one enter's into an exchange where they are having sex with someone they wouldn't want to have sex with in order to receive something they want or need, I feel uncomfortable. But, who really cares if I feel comfortable?
The people I choose to have in my life don't generally have to "stack up" to my own imposed ideas of right and wrong (for me). Right and wrong for me, in other words, doesn't mean right and wrong for someone else. Why should it?
The only thing I really draw the line on is full up victimization. I choose to not have people in my life that victimize others. Period. My own strit moral code that I live with, though, is so very full of grey shades that I don't have the ability to generally judge what others do, and I don't really want to.
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As long as the exchange is mutually beneficial and everybody is happy, I don't see a reason for anyone to blink twice. Mutually beneficial can be anything from "contribute money towards the pot" to "provide interesting companionship" to "does housework" to "really good fuckbuddy" or any of a billion other things where everybody is happy.
Your sexual desires are a totally reasonable way to choose the lucky two friends, as long as they're down, don't you think?
I would be uncomfortable with the situation, on the other hand, if they would not have chosen to sleep with you to begin with, but are doing it to survive. Specifically survive, because was you get down to the bottom level of Maslow's Heirarchy, people get a bit funny (and hey, sex is on that level, too, so it's a bit complicated).
Really, though, as soon as one enter's into an exchange where they are having sex with someone they wouldn't want to have sex with in order to receive something they want or need, I feel uncomfortable. But, who really cares if I feel comfortable?
The people I choose to have in my life don't generally have to "stack up" to my own imposed ideas of right and wrong (for me). Right and wrong for me, in other words, doesn't mean right and wrong for someone else. Why should it?
The only thing I really draw the line on is full up victimization. I choose to not have people in my life that victimize others. Period. My own strit moral code that I live with, though, is so very full of grey shades that I don't have the ability to generally judge what others do, and I don't really want to.