You chose wrong.

You're one of my ostensibly monogamous friends. There's one person in your life right now with whom you share some selection of intimate moments, whether those are romantic, emotional, sexual, or otherwise. You've chosen to give up the search for the right person in favor of being with the person you're with now. You choose not to share those moments or experiences with other people. Now, you might have been in a committed relationship for 40 years, or you might be more serially monogamous. Either way, you probably chose wrong. I'm not using any specific definition of "right person" or "choose wrong" here. Pick pretty much any metric you want, apply any criteria you'd like to your decision making process, from stability to happiness (yours or theirs or both) to convenience, and the odds are exceptionally high against you actually being with the person that is the best fit. That you can't see this is generally related to the human brain being poorly designed for handling emotional drives vs rational decision making.

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I thought my friends and potential partners might benefit from some insight into this part of my head.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gaid72fqzNE