I tend to say "steaminiess" to refer to erogenous stuff that doesn't involve that which is usually covered by boxers or briefs, and "sexitimes" to refer to stuff that does.
Girlgirl interaction, given the lack of genetalia entering another body, is indeed harder to define.
There's always the baseball analogies, though I'll admit I don't completely understand them. (first base, second base...)
If you mean erogenous touching that doesn't involve oral sex, 'everything but' may or may not imply oral sex to the other person.
I am, however, quite squarely in that 75-90% of the population that considers the word, "sex," unmodified, to mean "boybits in girlbits if there is at least one boy involved."
Re your partner, I would submit that if 3/4 to 9/10 of the population is going to have a different understanding of what you mean when you say a word, then you're misusing the word.
(Some of this does depend on context; for example, your opening definition may actually match the legal definition in Maryland, BUT that definition is deliberately vague in order to be able to call as much as possible prostitution.
Similarly, there are words that have different meanings in specific academic contexts than they have in colloquial use. Unless all parties in a discussion are known to be using said specific academic context, then one must define one's meaning. )
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Date: 2012-06-27 06:13 pm (UTC)Girlgirl interaction, given the lack of genetalia entering another body, is indeed harder to define.
There's always the baseball analogies, though I'll admit I don't completely understand them. (first base, second base...)
If you mean erogenous touching that doesn't involve oral sex, 'everything but' may or may not imply oral sex to the other person.
I am, however, quite squarely in that 75-90% of the population that considers the word, "sex," unmodified, to mean "boybits in girlbits if there is at least one boy involved."
Re your partner, I would submit that if 3/4 to 9/10 of the population is going to have a different understanding of what you mean when you say a word, then you're misusing the word.
(Some of this does depend on context; for example, your opening definition may actually match the legal definition in Maryland, BUT that definition is deliberately vague in order to be able to call as much as possible prostitution.
Similarly, there are words that have different meanings in specific academic contexts than they have in colloquial use. Unless all parties in a discussion are known to be using said specific academic context, then one must define one's meaning. )