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Slow motion long distance relationships
Jul. 3rd, 2012 03:01 pmI live the sort of life that sees me traveling with some regularity. ( Read more... )
If we had sex (or dinner, or dates, or kinky play, or ...) the last few times we met, and you haven't told me otherwise, I am going to expect-as-in-prediction (not expect-as-in-obligation) it to happen again. I am going to talk to you like someone I'm in that sort of relationship with. If you are offended by my mere mention of the matter, I'm going to be confused. If your social or relationship status has changed in a way that my bringing up our relationship (which may be ongoing or done) is a problem, and you haven't told me that, I'm going to be unhappy and confused. That confusion, and one of us having a misguided approach to the situation, is predicated on there being almost no societal background, conventional or otherwise, for this sort of relationship. Thus, I am publishing this writing. I hope to illustrate my feelings on the matter, and I hope to spark discussion among my friends and acquaintances that might better guide me in these situations in the future.
If we had sex (or dinner, or dates, or kinky play, or ...) the last few times we met, and you haven't told me otherwise, I am going to expect-as-in-prediction (not expect-as-in-obligation) it to happen again. I am going to talk to you like someone I'm in that sort of relationship with. If you are offended by my mere mention of the matter, I'm going to be confused. If your social or relationship status has changed in a way that my bringing up our relationship (which may be ongoing or done) is a problem, and you haven't told me that, I'm going to be unhappy and confused. That confusion, and one of us having a misguided approach to the situation, is predicated on there being almost no societal background, conventional or otherwise, for this sort of relationship. Thus, I am publishing this writing. I hope to illustrate my feelings on the matter, and I hope to spark discussion among my friends and acquaintances that might better guide me in these situations in the future.