1. If your email writing style is anything at all similar to your blog writing style, you should definitely approach girls about this in-person. It's very hard to convey emotions through writing, and in fact it's very easy to accidentally convey the wrong thing. I realize that it's a lot harder to do in person; you can end up tripping over your words, saying the wrong thing, etc. (a) That will get better with practice, and (b) some women find that endearing. Regarding (a), I would recommend you find a female friend to actually roleplay it out with repeatedly; that will go a long way in helping you relax. Have her give varying responses, like rejecting you a few times in different ways, to help desensitize yourself to it.
2. Get a wingman to help introduce and talk you up to potential partners. Actually, get a wingwoman if you can -- women tend to be more effective at that. And not only that, but have friends do a bit of recon work for you, to try and find out how interested a girl is in you.
3. Work at showing your attraction, emotionally. This is connected to #1, but you are a very analytical personality type, and it shows in conversation. Because of this, the fit might be good but the girl will never realize it because she doesn't feel like you're really that interested. Just saying, "I think you're cute and would enjoy cuddling," might work, but it will work more if you use the right body language and tone of voice. I'm guessing it's hard for you to turn the analytical part off, so spend that time concentrating on posture and body language.
4. Check out some pickup artist resources; take what's useful and leave the rest behind. I will say outright that I'm not a fan of the pickup artist mentality (as I know it to be), but their main skill is in developing self-confidence, and I think that could help you a lot.
5. Relax; try not to over-think things, live in the moment, and have fun as it's available.
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Date: 2011-03-21 05:52 pm (UTC)1. If your email writing style is anything at all similar to your blog writing style, you should definitely approach girls about this in-person. It's very hard to convey emotions through writing, and in fact it's very easy to accidentally convey the wrong thing. I realize that it's a lot harder to do in person; you can end up tripping over your words, saying the wrong thing, etc. (a) That will get better with practice, and (b) some women find that endearing. Regarding (a), I would recommend you find a female friend to actually roleplay it out with repeatedly; that will go a long way in helping you relax. Have her give varying responses, like rejecting you a few times in different ways, to help desensitize yourself to it.
2. Get a wingman to help introduce and talk you up to potential partners. Actually, get a wingwoman if you can -- women tend to be more effective at that. And not only that, but have friends do a bit of recon work for you, to try and find out how interested a girl is in you.
3. Work at showing your attraction, emotionally. This is connected to #1, but you are a very analytical personality type, and it shows in conversation. Because of this, the fit might be good but the girl will never realize it because she doesn't feel like you're really that interested. Just saying, "I think you're cute and would enjoy cuddling," might work, but it will work more if you use the right body language and tone of voice. I'm guessing it's hard for you to turn the analytical part off, so spend that time concentrating on posture and body language.
4. Check out some pickup artist resources; take what's useful and leave the rest behind. I will say outright that I'm not a fan of the pickup artist mentality (as I know it to be), but their main skill is in developing self-confidence, and I think that could help you a lot.
5. Relax; try not to over-think things, live in the moment, and have fun as it's available.